Crap: What was just absolute rubbish for you this year? What would you do to change that? Describe something, or some moment, that was just hopelessly awful, and tell us how it could (or could not) be made better.
Maybe I'm in too warm and fuzzy a mood, or it's too early in the morning, but I can't really pull anything out right now. I'm sure there were craptacular moments this past year, but nothing so horribly awful.
So there.
Monday, December 31, 2012
Dec 18 1000 Words
1000 Words: There’s the old saying that a photo is worth 1,000 words. Give us a photo with that impact that sums up some significant event of your 2012, or give us 1000 words about a pivotal moment in 2012.
This picture can barely do justice to all that went into the day. But the flowers were given and designed by such a special friend, the jam was made by my mother, the label was designed by anothergreat friend and it was set up by a whole passel of friends who I can only thank time and time again for making it happen.
I would fill my 1000 words with thank you, over and over again.
This picture can barely do justice to all that went into the day. But the flowers were given and designed by such a special friend, the jam was made by my mother, the label was designed by anothergreat friend and it was set up by a whole passel of friends who I can only thank time and time again for making it happen.
I would fill my 1000 words with thank you, over and over again.
Dec 17- Surprise
Surprise: The most surprising thing that happened this year was…
I suppose it would be getting married. I mean that in itself wasn't surprising since it was on the table for the whole year, but if you had asked me two years ago at this time if I was going to be married in 2012 I would have probably laughed you out of town.
I hadn't reallly given getting married much thought in the past five years, after thinking about it compulsively and jealously for the previous four. I used to cast longing gazes at the rings of others, burst into tears at the announcement of an engagement. Smile through the anger when a friend or friends got engaged and married. But thankfully that changed and I just stopped caring or thinking about it very much. I was actually geniunely happy when good people got married.
And then one day it happend to me. Which doesn't mean it was or is the most amzing thing to ever happen to me. It could be, but I also hope for other amazing things. It just wasn't on my radar.
In the immortal words of Ferris Bueller "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
I'm glad I stopped.
I suppose it would be getting married. I mean that in itself wasn't surprising since it was on the table for the whole year, but if you had asked me two years ago at this time if I was going to be married in 2012 I would have probably laughed you out of town.
I hadn't reallly given getting married much thought in the past five years, after thinking about it compulsively and jealously for the previous four. I used to cast longing gazes at the rings of others, burst into tears at the announcement of an engagement. Smile through the anger when a friend or friends got engaged and married. But thankfully that changed and I just stopped caring or thinking about it very much. I was actually geniunely happy when good people got married.
And then one day it happend to me. Which doesn't mean it was or is the most amzing thing to ever happen to me. It could be, but I also hope for other amazing things. It just wasn't on my radar.
In the immortal words of Ferris Bueller "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
I'm glad I stopped.
Dec 16- Choice
Choice: Being an adult means making your own choices. What choices were the hardest to make this year?
I think that hardest choice this year has been choosing to take care of myself first. I'm not very good at doing that, but I'm trying to get better at it.
Sometimes this means hurting people's feelings so they can stop hurting me. Sometimes it means I need to choose not to hurt myself by my actions.
It's a lot of little choices that add up. And I'm working on making the right choice for myself so I can be the best to others.
I think that hardest choice this year has been choosing to take care of myself first. I'm not very good at doing that, but I'm trying to get better at it.
Sometimes this means hurting people's feelings so they can stop hurting me. Sometimes it means I need to choose not to hurt myself by my actions.
It's a lot of little choices that add up. And I'm working on making the right choice for myself so I can be the best to others.
Friday, December 28, 2012
Dec 15-Friendship
Friendship: What was it like for you to be a friend to others this year? Did you rekindle an old friendship? Strengthen a current friendship? Make friends with someone you didn’t think was “your type?”
There were the best of friends, there were the worst of friends.
There were the best of friends, there were the worst of friends.
Saturday, December 15, 2012
Dec 14-Family
December 14: Family: Did your role in the family shift or change over the past year? How? Why?
Since this is the year I got married, it was the year of family. Generally, it's been awesome. How family helped us this year was amazing. Even when I was banging my head against my desk or the HB because my dad drove/drives me nuts I am still so thankful they are who they are.
Now that I'm married, and we are our own family, it's a bit weird! Only in the sense that I have to switch allegiance, and in my close-knit family that changes things. It's natural and it's right and it is the way to build and keep creating a strong partnership, but it takes some getting used to.
I tell my parents and brother pretty much everything I have always been pretty open with them. Except for mutually decided "don't ask, don't tell" topics, they know wha gwan. So if I were having relationship problems or frustrations, it would be pretty normal for me to talk to them about it or about anything.
Now I feel like that has to change somewhat. I know they are there if I really need them and will always support me. But when it comes to my marriage there is one person I need to talk to first and that's the HB. It doesn't do us any favours if I'm constantly going back to my parents when I have an issue, or news- they can't do much for any situation but listen. I need to go to the source and we deal with it as a unit, a family.
I have a new first line of defence and I'm so thankful for my parents and my brother for being that to me for so many years, when I was alone or alone together with someone I didn't really trust. They stood by me, they listened (and in the case of my dad told me what to do). But now is the time to shift, to create new memories and forge new pathways of listening and understanding. I want to help build up what I have with the HB, not tear it down by going outwards.
It is the time to lay the foundations for the years ahead, and this is what I have been learning this year. I'm not perfect at it, but I'm so much more comfortable and trusting of it that I have ever been in my life.
Since this is the year I got married, it was the year of family. Generally, it's been awesome. How family helped us this year was amazing. Even when I was banging my head against my desk or the HB because my dad drove/drives me nuts I am still so thankful they are who they are.
Now that I'm married, and we are our own family, it's a bit weird! Only in the sense that I have to switch allegiance, and in my close-knit family that changes things. It's natural and it's right and it is the way to build and keep creating a strong partnership, but it takes some getting used to.
I tell my parents and brother pretty much everything I have always been pretty open with them. Except for mutually decided "don't ask, don't tell" topics, they know wha gwan. So if I were having relationship problems or frustrations, it would be pretty normal for me to talk to them about it or about anything.
Now I feel like that has to change somewhat. I know they are there if I really need them and will always support me. But when it comes to my marriage there is one person I need to talk to first and that's the HB. It doesn't do us any favours if I'm constantly going back to my parents when I have an issue, or news- they can't do much for any situation but listen. I need to go to the source and we deal with it as a unit, a family.
I have a new first line of defence and I'm so thankful for my parents and my brother for being that to me for so many years, when I was alone or alone together with someone I didn't really trust. They stood by me, they listened (and in the case of my dad told me what to do). But now is the time to shift, to create new memories and forge new pathways of listening and understanding. I want to help build up what I have with the HB, not tear it down by going outwards.
It is the time to lay the foundations for the years ahead, and this is what I have been learning this year. I'm not perfect at it, but I'm so much more comfortable and trusting of it that I have ever been in my life.
Dec 13- Do-Over
Do-Over: Of the things that happened this year, if you had the chance to do X all over again, what would it be?
What a question! This year was a pretty great year. There were ups and downs, but the balance is tipped really far in the ups.
I really try to live without regrets so what I would do over again is my honeymoon. Yes, that's right I would like to go back and do over our 12 days in Hawaii. I don't think I'd like to do too much different, maybe more snorkelling, maybe spend a night in Hilo and drive to Volcano from there. But the rest of it, the days at the beach, the walks into Kailua, the sneaky matinee, the days in the pool I would do that all over again just as it was.
Sometimes I think I should have done more, we should have done ALL THE THINGS while we were there. But it's important to take a break once in a while. And if you can't lounge at the pool all day on your honeymoon, when can you take that time?
People would come in from wherever and while parking their car tell us what they did that day. Ziplining! Scuba diving! Helicopter rides! and they would ask us what we did, and we'd smile (a little foolishly like you are supposed to on your honeymoon) and say- nothing! They seemed disappointed sometimes, but maybe they were just jealous.
What a question! This year was a pretty great year. There were ups and downs, but the balance is tipped really far in the ups.
I really try to live without regrets so what I would do over again is my honeymoon. Yes, that's right I would like to go back and do over our 12 days in Hawaii. I don't think I'd like to do too much different, maybe more snorkelling, maybe spend a night in Hilo and drive to Volcano from there. But the rest of it, the days at the beach, the walks into Kailua, the sneaky matinee, the days in the pool I would do that all over again just as it was.
Sometimes I think I should have done more, we should have done ALL THE THINGS while we were there. But it's important to take a break once in a while. And if you can't lounge at the pool all day on your honeymoon, when can you take that time?
People would come in from wherever and while parking their car tell us what they did that day. Ziplining! Scuba diving! Helicopter rides! and they would ask us what we did, and we'd smile (a little foolishly like you are supposed to on your honeymoon) and say- nothing! They seemed disappointed sometimes, but maybe they were just jealous.
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